I wrote about the purpose of a quiet time in your social life a couple weeks ago. You can read that here.
Today, I am reminded of that need to be silent with God, not only just in a quiet time during the day, but sometimes my whole life has to be silenced in order for my relationship with God to grow. I’m also reminded of the need to pick my friends wisely, even when that means losing some. But when I think about that, I realize those people are not friends in the truest sense of the word. These people I speak of are those that are self-serving in their relationships, who are out to better themselves while leaving me drained and empty, without themselves helping to fill me back up. These are not the kind of people I want in my life, anyway.
“You want to surround yourself with goodness and with people who are uplifting and trying to be the best versions of themselves.”
Truth. Spoken by a friend of my who is exactly the opposite of self-serving. She is the truest friend I have ever had, and I deserve nothing of her friendship. But her words are so true.
These people in my life that I am losing have been of no benefit to me today or to my future tomorrow… Sadly, they were time-fillers and life-suckers. I am bad about letting go of relationships. Sometimes I feel bad that I have to be a little blunt to these people, letting them go. It’s like I’m firing them for doing a poor job. Often, they don’t get it.
I have learned over the past few years of my life, that letting people go is okay. I don’t have to be friends with everyone. I think it’s part of growing up – learning I don’t have to please everyone and I definitely don’t have to be everyone’s friend.
I struggled with that for so long, because, as a Christian I figured I needed to like everyone, and they me. That is so untrue. I can love everyone, but that will look differently from my best friend than it will my ex-boyfriend who speaks lies into my life. Loving him doesn’t mean hanging out with him. Loving him sometimes means keeping my mouth shut and praying for him.
These thoughts are still not final. I am still walking this season of my life and have so much to ponder and to learn. God is working. For now, I am thankful for those who love all of me – the good, the bad, the nasty – and am praying for those brothers and sisters I will one day call my friends.